help a naive young adult out here

''NAIVE, 18 yr old definately not ready for kids,JOBLESS & CAN NOT afford birth control, & CAR-LESS.''Smart enough to realize that condoms r not 100 % effective,and all of the problems stated above,Yet u still want to have sex,first u should get a JOB so u can support yourself & be able to afford ur own birth control,transportation,etc.,And MOST IMPORTANTLY ,EDUCATE YOURSELF about sexually transmitted diseases & ur BODYand how to EFFECTIVELY PROTECT YOURSELF,before having sex,there is no rush,you wo not swievel up & die,because u r not having sex.Please slow down & talk to ur mom,and just because ur r considered an ADULT & can do things without ur moms consent,does not mean that u should,If u can not financially take care of yourself & r depending on ur mom for food,shelter,etc. u DON'T have the right to burden her if u & some guy have a slip up.

Legally u r an adult,financially u r still a child,because ADULTS take care of themselves.Best wishes.

A bus trip or bummed ride to planned parenthood is probably in order. They do pro-rate charges based on income, & do a wonderful job of educating u on ur (many) options. They also give u a physical, which u should have before starting many types of BC.

You *might* want to have an honest heart-to-heart with ur mom about how you're feeling. She will probably not be thrilled to be having that conversation with her baby, but may come around if u explain that it is not realistic to expect u to never have sex, & it would be MUCH better to not accidentally get pregnant than be in denial about the whole thing.

Though.when I was ur age, that would've totally backfired on my mom. Luckily the irregular & hideously painful periods I had convinced her to get me on BC. Unfortunately, no one warned me that the speculum they use for the exam can ''pop ur cherry'' if it has not been already. It was. quite uncomfortable & not awesome. So, consider that a heads-up. It made things much smoother when I did finally become sexually active a year later, though.

just u a condom its probably safer the using some fucken pills, and i wont feel that bad ur first time

i'm just gonna hit u up with some facts. birth control= bad idea. It releases chemical hormones into ur body. makes u irritable, can cause depression & numerous kinds of cancers, often times breast cancer. It can destroy ur reproductive organs, as in u can never have kids. this is rare but happens more than you'd think. It surprised me. condoms, like u said, do not work all the time. My advice to u is do not have sex unless ur ready for children. Besides a lot of people get hurt when they have sex before they're committed to a person. by committed i mean, ''Til death do us part.'' I am not going to tell u what u can & can not do, i've just seen too many people get really hurt & i've seen it more in people who have used the pill, coincidence, idk but i doubt it because it actually releases hormones into ur body, that could explain why they got so sad. I am just tired of watching people get hurt.

You're 18 - you're an adult & can choose for yourself if u want to go on the pill - ur GP has no right to tell ur parent/s, so just do it..it is not like u have not thought things thru' - some kids start having sex at 12 & 13 & r totally clueless. You sound like a decent & sensible enough young person but maybe u should start to trust ur own judgment a bit more. Better to be prepared than get pregnant on ur first 'pop!'

Altho' i am answering from a UK perspective & we have NHS here...
good luck x